TRUST.
Can you trust him even after an affair?
How do I trust him after he cheated?
The foundation of every relationship has to be trust. Once that bond is broken, the relationship will likely never ever be the same. It can start with something as simple as a little white lie. There is many reasons why people lie, cheat, and steal. People lie to avoid consequences and confrontation, people lie to be liked or sociable. Some people are even pathological liars by nature. A pathological liar will lie for no apparent reason. People will lie as a prank or joke, and people will lie to cause trouble and instigate a situation. Whatever the reason is or isn't, in our society lying happens constantly.
The unscientific assessment of Britons by the Daily Mail of London, concluded that men and women don't lie the same or an equal number. "It's men who tell the most fibs, coming out with five every day compared with women, who lie three times," a spokesman for WKD told the newspaper.
However, only you know your relationship, maybe this time it was just a little lie, does that mean that big lies may soon follow? It is hard to say, but the seven year itch is a real phenomena that happens in many relationships.
When a man does decide to end up cheating on his partner, it ends up with countless numbers of lies being told. He is likely lying about where he is, what he is doing, and who he is with while he is having an affair. How can you protect yourself from him lying to you and straying from your relationship? The problem is you can't. He is going to do what he wants to do, but there are ways to reduce the chances of it happening.
If you discover that he has had an affair, what should you do? Was it a physical affair, an emotional affair, a cyber affair? Well, only you can answer that. Unfortunately, every infidelity is different, as is every relationship. Many relationships will often deal with an affair, and just as many will fail because of an affair. How do you know he won't do it again? There is no way to know that. A relationship can survive an affair, the underlying reason behind the affair has to be addressed for it not to happen again. Did he cheat because of boredom? Were you not giving each other the attention that each of you needed anymore? Was the relationship completely fine, and he was just a bonehead and did it merely for the thrill? Whatever the reason is, you have to come to terms with yourself. You have to ask yourself if the relationship is still worth pursuing after the bond of trust has been broken.
Sometimes a man can recognize his adulterous mistake and regain that trust, though sometimes he can continue to be adulterous. In that case you may regret giving him a second or third chance. Again, only you know when it is time to call it quits. Once a relationship has ended, the dating process may begin again. You may or may not find another man that is completely trust worthy. Remember, one in 2.4 mean cheat, and most of their significant others do not know. Will the next man you decide to be with, just not get caught? Will he be completely faithful? The biggest thing you can ask yourself is, does he make you happy. Put the affair aside for a second, and be realistic. Is there someone else out there that will make you happier than he did?
