Boredom can tear a relationship apart.

Sex is not the main reason that men cheat on their significant other. Boredom is. According to Santagati, a relationship expert, 99% of cheating men, risk their relationship and marriage due to BOREDOM by having an affair!

What Can I Do?

I think back to a year or two after my husband and I were married. I remember about 2-3 years into our relationship, I looked at him and said, "What do you want to this weekend?" He responded with, "I don't know, what do you want to do?" I responded with, "I don't know either, you don't have any ideas?" He responded with, "Well, if we had a child, we certainly wouldn't be bored!" That moment is seriously the point in our relationship at which we both knew we were ready to take our relationship to the next level. Obviously, having a child is not the best or only way to eliminate boredom, but it was the first time we knew that there was something missing from our relationship. Having a child is a big step in any relationship, taking the plunge into parenthood is a huge decision. If you are already expecting a child, our partner website has information on pregnancy, having a child, and parenting.

 

Recently, CNN, did an article about relationships and boredom. It cited a study that was done by Texas A&M University that found about 90 percent of mothers and fathers saw at least some decreases in relationship satisfaction after they became parent.

Yes, our relationship experienced boredom once again after our child was born. When the baby needs a bottle, needs a diaper change, needs to be held, needs to be dressed, and needs everything, you and your partner don't have time to be bored. But your child quickly grows up and becomes more and more self-sufficient. Our infant is now 4 and a half years old and doesn't need nearly as much as he did a few months ago. They grow up so quickly and need you less and less.

Another interesting part of the study found that staying childless wasn't the secret to marital bliss, either. Couples in the study who had no children still became less content with their marriage, just more gradually than those who had children. Preventing loneliness and boredom is not always easy. Keeping a man from becoming bored and straying can be hard work. Boredom and loneliness can tear a relationship apart.

I remember taking an economics class in college. I learned about diminishing returns. I think that holds true for relationships as well, I will call it the "law of diminishing satisfaction"™. The longer the relationship continues, the less satisfaction is gained by it. Remember back to those courtship days where you and he used to send love notes, or write poems, or bring each other gifts. It's so easy in the beginning to keep each other interested for months or a couple years even. You are still getting to know each other's likes, dislikes, dreams, and intricacies. You are trying your hardest to keep each other interested. Well, once you move in together, or get married, it seems those things that you both used to do to win each other over, slowly but surely become farther and farther apart. Obviously it is easy to blame him or blame yourself but passing blame or pointing fingers does not solve the problem. Your relationship can be saved. This web site was designed to help you find that spark and rekindle that interest you both had for each other at the beginning. Surprise him. Show him you are BORED with BEING BORED!!

 

What about doing something spontaneous and sexy, that will blow his mind. What about doing something sensual and intimate that would surely get his attention. What about doing something he will remember and never forget?

In my research for this website, I came across a woman named Rachel. I found something to be completely understandable, which brings us back to the psychology of men and women, and how men don't think twice about the ramification of taking that adventure and women think through the process more and analyze all possible outcomes. The male mind is all action and then analyze after the fact, while the female brain is all thought and thinking and planning.

When a man gets bored, he finds excitement. When a woman gets bored, she thinks about excitement and then often doesn't have the impulse to act on the thoughts. Well, if you ever get bored again, Rachel, feel free to contact us.